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Tuesday, August 13, 2013

Hey ADAM! Strong Women are Here to Stay!

 I have been hearing it for ages, but of late, it has become an ECHO following me around!
Be Either a Strong Woman or a Good Woman!

A majority of the men do find it very hard to cope up with strong, assertive, talented women at their workplace. They seem to them as domain intruders in the corridors of work, foreign bodies in the system of life and an invader of their own territory.Even if a woman is an achiever or accomplishes, they attribute it to the attention they get from men bosses by virtue of which they got promoted. 

This is a great question. And the unfortunate news is that, yes, some men are terrified of strong, talented women. Now what is it that rips through a man’s heart when he sees a strong woman enough to label her “impossible to get along” “never ever listens” and “good woman but arrogant”!

All across the world it is almost like some gift if ever a woman attains equal footing either personally or professionally. Very few strong women make it to the top, whilst a large majority falls by the wayside. So now is this a gender face-off or a gender-bias?

 Even amongst men leaders,very few get along as they are very domain oriented Alpha males; one can just imagine an Alpha female coming along! The whole domain war intensifies and end result is that women feel challenged and diminished. Guess most women are assumed to grow against opposition, because we are so naturally good at overcoming challenges.

Sometimes I have heard reports of these turf wars becoming dirty, petty and unbearable! Frustration sets in because of unfulfilled ambitions, organizational politics and worst of all- unrealized dreams.
Just because the potential of an able woman remains untapped …just because she is a woman?

 I have personally been the victim of being feared and hence pulled own just because being “honest” was considered as being “no pliable” and “non compliant” .Deficient people in power, men/women lack  self esteem and confidence, hence  repeatedly attack persons with “integrity” They take pot shots mostly at women since the emotional and moral component seems more vulnerable. 

My personal experience suggests it is all about one’s own psyche. Seen enough men and women  both of who are tramps, deficient in confidence and ability…hence attack becomes the best form of defense for them! Insecurity governs what the deficient believe is a way to usurp “power”…maybe the masculine “dominance” “strength” is assumed to be a virtue and the very same in women a “demerit”…how sad a standard of scale is that?

There is a fine line between strong willed and bossy, arrogant, self-centered, and controlling. A man or a woman does want to necessarily control or dominate, but neither does he/she want to be controlled and dominated. He /she doesn’t want to feel like they are butting heads all of the time. 

Strong people, independent people don’t need to tell you they’re strong or independent! We must never feel redundant or unnecessary either at home or work. Cheers to people… both men and women in power who know navigating organizational politics means:
I don’t need to control
I have nothing to prove 
I am whole and fulfilled because I live by my own standards

In a world reigned by a challenged man stomping on a strong woman’s virtues to validate his own worth, may the tribe of Alpha Females grow and  lead lives of Independence and Competence.

Sunday, July 14, 2013

Move over Scambos and Dumbos…..Rambo is on his way! Naam ya Kaam?

“It is better to fail in originality than to succeed in imitation.”  said Herman Melville.

Isn't it the misfortune for India that tainted politicians get elected and selected for important positions, probably to do more damage to the country! The rousing reception for DMK’s M Kanimozhi, following her victory in Rajya Sabha elections, resembled a party's victory bash after winning state elections. Ms Kanizmohi is still fighting the 2G spectrum scam case for which she spent more than six months behind bars. Critics say she should have waited till her name was cleared in the case. But Ms Kanimozhi says she need not. "I have an example in Tamil Nadu Chief Minister (J Jayalalithaa) and I didn't have to wait till charges against me are cleared," she told NDTV. The DMK did not have enough numbers to ensure her victory and it was support of its former ally Congress' five MLAs that brought her a second term in Parliament. 
Long live the “United Plunderers Association”

The Plunderers continue to preside over a government in which almost every single minister, including the Prime Minister, has been linked to serious financial scams. Allegations have been ignored, denied or buried, investigations have been manipulated, and till today no action, or little action, has been taken

We cannot reform politics until the people and the delivery of justice is reformed. Delayed justice and tardy law enforcers have encouraged criminalization of politics. The country has been submerged by a tide of corruption scandals one more in magnitude than the other. These mammoth scandals are at a gigantic cost which India surely cannot afford.

When existing laws cannot be implemented wonder why some intellectual pygmies bring on new laws! The subjects have lost all their faith in the empire! Dynasty destroys painfully proven the worst ways….60 years is truly a long time. Its high time kaam spoke instead of naam!

Anna and Kejriwal have swung 360 degrees and converted a protest into their own desired manifestoes. The Cop Lady’s dreams remain! Crimes soar; Civic conditions continue to deteriorate. Black money inhibits capable people from entering politics, Merits rarely gets rewarded.Caste invariably divides!

Hope Young Emergent India wakes up. Hope they pitch to cleanse their immediate surroundings. They cannot set the sky as the limit; they must ensure more footprints on the moon. We can become the greatest force for progress and prosperity in human history.No point either wearing a dupatta of deceit or a burqha of secularism!...India must get past the caste divide!...past the Plunderers!

In the words of Robert Fripp who says “In strange and uncertain times such as those we are living in, sometimes a reasonable person might despair. But hope is unreasonable and love is greater even than this. May we trust the inexpressible benevolence of the creative impulse?”

It would be too late and if we don’t ASAP sanitize the law breakers would soon be the only legislators we ever have! Guess it’s time for a puppy lover to take over!

Move over Scambos and Dumbos…..Rambo is on his way!