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Tuesday, November 23, 2010

Goodbye Tension, Hello Pension!!

Summer  this time felt hotter
And Winter setting in seems much colder.
2010..I realize another year has passed
And aren't we all another year older?

Have you noticed that stairs are getting steeper?  Groceries are heavier. But surprisingly wallets are lighter!...  And, everything is farther away.I started realizing that makers of clothing are less civilized these days. Why else would they suddenly start labeling a size 32 pair of pants a 42! Manufacturers of bathroom scales are pulling the same prank, but in reverse!!... Do they think I actually "believe" the number I see on that dial? Heck!  I would never let myself weigh that much! I refuse to accept I’m being fooled anymore!

I am now, probably for the first time in my life, the person I have always wanted to be!

I would never trade my amazing friends, (including some on Face Book) my wonderful life, my loving family for less gray hair or a flatter belly! As you get older, it is easier to be positive. You care less about what other people think. I don't question myself anymore. I've even earned the right to be wrong.I have seen too many dear friends leave this world too soon; before they understood the great freedom that comes with aging.However it seemed to me that a lot of things had changed!

Whose business is it if I choose to read or surf on the computer until 2 am.I  sometimes enjoy time with myself…sing and dance. I am contemplating going to Goa where I will walk or maybe hop  the beaches in a swim suit that is stretched over a bulging body, and I dive into the waves with abandon if I choose to, despite the pitying glances from the bikini set… They, too, will get old! Lol…

Life has indeed been a great mix of emotions the two most important being joy and sadness!!  Life without sadness is like love without hurt! All pristine and sterile never knowing the joy of being imperfect….Having rendered Oral Health care services for mare than two decades I can’t resist telling you about an incident…..

A friend of mine,Harsha, used to drive a bus load  of retired folks to a resort near Devanahalli.He always found great joy in taking the pensioners from an old age home, to a nearby resort on weekends! That was his way of giving back!! As in food for the soul!!

One day, during one such trip, he was tapped on his shoulder by a little old lady,Shobakka. She offered him a handful of kadalekkai ( peanuts), which he happily took and ate! After about 20 minutes, she tapped him on his shoulder again, and handed him another handful of kadlekkai!! Shobakka, repeated this generous gesture several more times through the journey. When she was about to hand him another batch again, he decided to ask her, 'why don't you and your friends eat the kadelakkai yourself?’. 

'We can't chew them because we’ve no teeth’, she answered. 

Harsha was puzzled and inquired, 'Then why on earth do you buy them?'
'Oh, we just love the chocolate around them', replied Shobakka, grinning!!.... Lol...

A Physician I’ve learnt buries his mistakes whereas a Dentist Pulls them out!

 People my own age are so much older than I am. I ran into an old friend at the supermarket the other day, and she has aged so much, that she didn't even recognize me… What do people want MOST in the world? What is the most sought-after goal? From the moment we awaken to the moment we close our eyes at night, what is it we seek every minute of the day? 

We want to feel good!!

On some level we all know that life is about feeling. If we don’t feel life, we miss life. And, of course, the most popular choice is to feel good.The primary motivation behind every action we take is the desire to feel happy!!!!!

As you grow older the only regrets are, the things you didn't do!


  1. A Very Well Thought Aspect of Life.....I Simply Loved this blog for Pure Frankness in it.....

  2. very nicely penned!!!the "feel good" factor is the most commonly neglected factor,me realized that a little late for my own liking.Thank god i have changed atleast now!!!!

  3. Hi Ushy!
    It is always a pleasure to read from you! Lovely thoughts and well expressed. Another year is passing by....i sure wouldn't trade my friend - YOU for anything. Am so happy to have you in my life!

  4. Njoy ur freedom n of being d person u always wanted 2 b...n of having the words to flow to say it all...guess thats y many write autobiographies in later years...not becoz they've lived most by then, but they r able to spell it all out...

  5. Great message "We want to feel Good" - I always prefer to give lot to this my - "beloved society" from my hard earned. It feels so good to me...

    We always want to feel good - Yeah, we always want to feel good,

    We want to feel good - OOOOh Yeah we want to feel good - God give us lot with the habit of sharing my food with my fellowship - We want to feel good

    We want to feel good - OOOOh Yeah God bless us with the heart filled with Love & Joy - We want to feel good

    We want to feel good – OOOOh Yeah – My dear beloved neighbour – we learn to be compassionate – We will feel so good

    We want to feel good – OOOOh Yeah – My dear friends – we don’t let ourselves down at any cost – we share our happiness; we share our experience; we teach each other; we love our nation – so we will always feel good

  6. Physical age hardly matters for our being/becoming, it is the mental aging, feeling that one is getting old, that does us in. One can be and do a thirty year old being at the age of 68 years!

  7. Very Nice! :-)). Have u retired from dentistry now? :-))

  8. "Good Bye Tension" - Welcome energetic, enthusiastic morning

  9. awesum.....its a g8 msg to live lyf mam.....simply feel gud nd refreshed.....there should b no regrets..............well said mam.... :-)

  10. very well written Ushy! Age is a state of mind, you are only as old as you want to be! Now if I can only convince my arthiritic joints that they are 20 yrs old! :)

  11. Well said Ushy.. Good work and Keep it up.

  12. It's uncanny, Ushy, how often when i read your words, I sit back and think that's exactly what's been going on in my mind! So thank you for verbalising my thoughts and you do capture them so well. People often talk about different ages and phases we go through. For me the 40 year mark was really one that was notably a shift in how i perceived myself and my interaction with others. It was 3 years ago and to celebrate my husband and my two little kids and I spent the weekend at a remote coastal resort. Sitting alone on a rock and looking at the sea, everything fell into place suddenly. What mattered was me, my likes and dislikes, my dreams and thrills. Yes off cos I still carried the responsibility of my kids, but that didn't mean that I had to trade my soul. And what others thought about me, well that's their thoughts and has nothing to do with me. Since then I've discovered so much more about myself and what I am actually about. Now it's just to make sure I don't fall back on bad old habbits like living a life for someone else and carrying a guilty feeling that has no basis in the reality of one life, live it the way you see fit.

  13. Ha ha Ha... Loved the bus driver part....

  14. so true ma'm..life is a series of moments and its so important that we live each moment to its fullest regardless of how old or young we are..you make 'growing old' seem more graceful and interesting..